Posts by Judy Tomczak

Forgiveness, A Gift that Sets the Giver Free

There she sat next to me in the pew. This time her recovery included a commitment to go back to church. I fought hard to no avail to keep the tears from flowing down my cheeks. My emotions were running high as she sat there as tangible proof of an answer to so many prayers. I didn't know then, that it wasn't going to last but I remember so vividly what God showed me that day.

FamilyJudy TomczakFebruary 12, 2017Grey Ministriesguilt and shame as the parent of an addict, mother of an addict, how to forgive someone, God will help us forgive, christians and substance abuse, forgiving yourself, what God says about forgiveness, alcoholism, guilt and condemnation for parents of addictsComment

How to Deal With Guilt and Shame as the Parent of an Addict

When I reached this point in my story I looked up and sitting directly across from me was a lady whose eyes I could see, were filling with tears. I spoke to her directly and said, "This is the toughest part isn't it?" and she nodded.

This is the point in my story where I talk about the guilt. This was the hardest hurdle for me to get over.

FamilyJudy TomczakJanuary 17, 2017Grey MinistriesMarried to an Addict, married to an addict in recovery, Anxiety about a spouse's addiction, married to a drug addict, Healing and Recovery for Addicts and their Families, what to do when someone you love has an addiction, christians and substance abuse, new christian bloggers, guilt and shame as the parent of an addict Comments

The Year I Lost Christmas: A Story About Grief and Addiction

I distinctly remember the year I lost my Christmas. I didn’t lose the meaning of the season or my appreciation for the birth of my Lord and Saviour. It was His strength that got me through it all but hovering above my Christmas was a dark cloud, a memory. For me, this cloud hovered almost a decade. I felt it every time she relapsed. It lifted during times when she was doing well and then returned with each stumble backwards. Its name is grief.

FamilyJudy TomczakDecember 18, 2016Grey Ministriesmother of an addict, new christian bloggers, modern christians, substance abuse issues, help, teenager is drinking, teen with eating disordre, Healing and Recovery for Addicts and their Families, What to do when you love an addict, what to do when someone you love has an addiction, what does the bible say about fear, what does God say about forgiveness, what it's like to love an addict, how God handles grief Comments

You Can Love Your Child and Hate Their Substance Abuse

Blonde hair, blue eyes and a wealth of talent. She was my first born; Beautiful, funny, smart and excelled at anything she put her mind to from track and field, dance and figure skating. She had a beautiful voice and sang like an angel. She had the drive and determination of an Olympic athlete. She could have done anything she wanted but ended up doing none of the things she dreamed of because deep inside her lived a little girl who felt unworthy.